Here’s a challenge: What’s the One thing you absolutely have to do before you die? It’s easy to pick the obvious things, like “see the Pyramids” or “have a family.” But what do you really Have to do? I never would have thought this before, but one thing I had to do was experience death up close. When I held my son as he died 5 years ago, it changed me forever. And that night I walked out of the hospital and saw one star in the Toronto sky. Light reaching my eye after millions of years of travelling through space — raining on my grief. I knew then that there’s no God, not in the traditional sense, anyway. And that life’s what you make it — how you see it. Or how tightly you hold the child while at the same time letting him go.